Influential child psychologists are advancing the idea that children as young as two years old are able to decide if they are “transgender” or not.
Out in front of this bizarre movement is Dr. Diane Ehrensaft, the Director of Mental Health for the University of California at San Francisco. She said that toddlers just know what their gender is, and whatever they claim to be has to be nurtured and supported.
“What we know is, you have a son who likes princess dresses. I would say get him the dresses,” she told the Associated Press. “Have your child feel free to choose. Maybe they’ll stop wearing dresses. Maybe they’ll grow up to be gay.”
Since two-year-olds instinctively know whether or not they’re a “boy” or a “girl,” likewise, they’ll know if they’re transgender.
Here, Dr. Ehrensaft talks about the “gender spectrum in children,” that apparently applies to toddlers:
She talks about “gender smoothies” and “proto-gay” children and “proto-trans-gender” children.
In fact, she gives what she calls a “laundry list” of different gender orientations that children can have. Of course, she leaves out the 95-plus percent of people whose “gender” and their “biological sex” are precisely the same.
I do not believe that “nurture” is the primary cause of homosexuality and “transgenderism.” There is a small segment of the population who are gay, or who have what psychiatrists call “gender dysphoria.”
But by normalizing it – by even encouraging children to be “fluid” with their gender is going to end up harming children who are not gender-fluid.
I don’t know if Dr. Ehrensaft has any kids, but I have a boy and a girl. Their gender identity (“I’m a boy!” or “I’m a girl!”) is an essential part of their identity. For most children, it is not fluid, it’s not a “smoothie.” It’s an immutable fact.
In the AP article, they quote another child psychologist who describes children in “distress” who feel forced to choose between “boys” clothes and “girls” clothes.
“Are you having daily battles about clothing before school?” Johanna Olson-Kennedy says. “There are some things that are pretty universal. Is this the kid that everyone is trying to give Mutant Ninja Turtles to, and what they really want is the gifts their sisters are getting?”
Olson Kennedy, who is the medical director for the “Center for Transyouth Health and Development” at the Children’s Hospital in LA.
It can also help for parents to get away somewhere with their child and allow the child to call the shots in terms of their gender, such as letting them use a different pronoun or wear a dress or other clothing of their choice, Olson-Kennedy says.
“Do it somewhere where you’re not going to see people you know, if that’s an issue for you,” she says. “Do a weekend as a different gender, and see what you learn.
“People have said this over and over again: ‘Oh, my God. I saw a side of my child I had never seen before.'”
You can have a talk with your kids about gender and sexuality but these good doctors are more than a decade too early.
Keep the toddlers out of the “gender” talk, please.